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In the past I've talked about being in my prime; that at 55, I am in my own personal Prime Time. Prime Time is for all of us between the age of 50 and 70 (and beyond! who knows?). We've got so many strange and wonderful experiences behind us and we have EARNED our wisdom. (see my post from January) So, with all those happy and motivational thoughts, the next thing I came upon is CHANGE. Ohhh; with all this knowledge and ability to choose wisely, now I realize that many decisions will require a change in myself. You see, I am accutely aware of what and how I did things before...how I handled relationships, obligations, commitments, goals, obstacles and on and on. About 35 years, a entire lifetime, of gettin' it all together. Now, in my prime I know that to move forward I may...most likely...certainly will, have to change: me. I have been embarking on new work/career/income/creative projects for about two years now; navigating the prime of my life. Today I can tell you that when you make changes, big changes, changes to your environment, body, home, relationships, hair, shoes (whatever!) you will be immediately presented with the big, fat fears that have kept you from even considering these wonderful adventures in the first place! In 2006 I had the amazing opportunity to travel to East Africa. It would be in the category of "humanitarian" trip, visiting projects for clean water, schools, and micro-business being developed in Kenya and Tanzania. And it would include 3-4 days of awesome safari. I jumped at the chance! I was elevated, like feet barely touching the ground at the prospect of me going to Africa! Yes! Yes! Yes!...what? inoculations? how many? five?! shots? needles? oh. And my phantom phobia of big, hairy spiders!! jungle! banana trees! wide-open landscapes! they are everywhere! I just know it!
I had to get a grip. I had to change. Because I had to go to Africa; I had to sieze this opportunity and who I had been in the past just didn't belong there...wouldn't make it. I had just about two months to get things together for this trip. Perhaps the shorter time span is a good thing. Up against it with not much wiggle room. I finally came to terms with my own mantra: I may see a Tarantula and I have to get shots. Being in our Prime is a wonderful and actually, for me, unexpected opportunity and playground. I watched my mom, in her 50's and 60's and beyond and she really wasn't having that much fun. I think in this century, in this time we have cultivated more freedom to be, to express ourselves. I guess you could call it the Boomer Factor; our generation evolving like none before it. But watching my mom and other women going into that age group made it seem like effort and burden was up ahead. Then I landed here...and I am so grateful for who we have become, the choices and freedom I can have. Whew!! And there are changes to be made. To "get with the program" so to speak. I don't want to miss out! I still have flexibility, energy, curiousity and passion! And now I am older and wiser so why not go for it? I may have to change how I've done things in the past. I may have to change my attitude and beliefs. I may see a Tarantula and I have to get shots! How great is that?!!
After traveling I often have snippets of memories that I edit with mischievous amusement. Here's one from Rome:
Tour guide:
"OK! Now you have 5 mee-nuts (minutes) to climb to the top of the Duomo! Then, return to the bus; we will meet back on the bus. Do not be late, please! Do not make me come look for you! OK? Oh, and this is also the time to use the toilets. OK? So! 5 mee-nuts: climb to top of the Duomo, use the toilets and return to the bus. OK! I see you there."
Tourist:
"Excuse me? Where are the toilets?
Tour guide:
"At the top of the Duomo."
I am creating a series of stories that present women who are engaged in business that is truly a work of love; their success comes from their hearts. In Success from the Heart these women are focused on what they love and believe in. Their work comes from serving others and their products/services are intended to benefit others in a joyful, nurturing and inspiring way. With success from the heart, anything else would be unnecessary. I ask a few questions of these women to inquire into what brings them to success from the heart.
Debby Wheeler, Wheeler Pet Sitting
I met Debby just about 2 months ago at a Chamber of Commerce networking luncheon. My first impression was how nicely dressed she was; I admired her shawl of golden and green colors and noticed it matched the green of her eyes. I figured she was about my age, and she is, 55 years old; about to turn 56 in August…just like me! Amidst the lively conversation around the table I caught some info about how she had held an executive position in a large corporation for many years. She was able to retire and from there she started her business, Wheeler Pet Sitting in the Napa Valley. She and her husband have opened their home to bring in dogs while owners are out of town or on a daily basis while they are at work. The Wheelers have three dogs of their own and have had as many as twelve dogs at home at one time! Twelve dogs! As she described her business and principles of dog-sitting she mentioned a photo she has of her husband and four dogs strewn over their bed. When Debby takes care of other people’s dogs, she insists that the dogs stay in the house with them. At Wheeler Pet Sitting there are no cages or kennels. This is a “home away from home” for dogs.
As she told her stories of pet-sitting I felt that flow of energy that I call Success from Heart. Debby has a love of dogs that creates a connection far beyond what many consider a “dog-lover”. I saw a sophisticated woman, talented, accomplished and a former executive. And the business she has chosen to create, to dwell in, to consume her heart and home is the care of dogs. I would say that if you’ve got more than four dogs on your bed and some of them don’t even live there, then that would be a work of love! Debby and her husband, Ed, are creating their success from the heart.
The Wheeler home is up in the hills of Napa, off Dry Creek Road. Their property is surrounded by woods and dips down a ravine in the hillside. The house is large and open with a big deck off the back. There are various cozy dog beds, blankets and covers over furniture. Their home is clean, comfortable and well-maintained. Pride in their home and how they care for family, friends and dogs is apparent all around.
My interview with Debby:
How old were you when you began to build the business you have today? Was it a straight journey or did you begin with something else that twisted and turned and evolved into what your business is today?
I was 50 when I retired and searched for the next thing to do. I did a “needs assessment”, what I like to do and what I don’t like. I tried in-home pet sitting first; going to my client’s home to care for their pets, not only dogs. That turned out to be a huge responsibility and very hard work. There was the home that was on the other side of the valley, a 45 minute drive up into the hills and the night a rain storm caused their roof to leak into their bedroom and on their bed. My clients were in Mexico! I couldn’t ignore the fiasco and had to do the best I could for my client. Obviously it was the unforeseen events and challenges that came with the simple idea of pet-sitting. I had to re-evaluate how the business could work; it was a filtering process.
How did you recognize what was in your heart to do?
Of course my love of dogs. I was raised with German Shepards and the first dog of my own was a Dalmatian named “Bumpo “. I was 13 and trained him all on my own. There is this feeling within me when I’m with dogs. It’s a feeling of all is right with the world, I love everything about them. I love their faces, their fur; I love the smell of them! When we started caring for the dogs at our home we had kennels at first. But I just couldn’t stand it. I couldn’t sleep at night with the dogs alone outside; I had to bring them in and know they were ok.
How does your business reflect your passion?
The dogs we care for become a part of our family. When the guest dogs are here they are all family.
Did you ever, or how often did you think you were wasting your time or that it was a foolish venture? How did you overcome your doubts?
I guess the doubts come from the insecurities of other people, trying to do what the owners think is best, and overcoming that with understanding that our relationship is with the dogs, not entirely with the owners. We have to do what we know is good for the dogs. We take responsibility and even help to guide the owners in better ways to care for their dogs. I’ve had dogs come here and they are too fat! I help the owners understand healthy feeding habits. Or dogs that jump up on people; I show the owners leashes and harnesses that help to control that, they are products they don’t know about and won’t find in the standard pet store.
When it seemed a foolish venture was one Christmas when we had 10 or 12 dogs staying with us! I am a “night” person, not an early morning person. Among this big group of dogs we had 4 pugs, 2 black and 2 white and they are mischievous! One morning they had me up at 5:00am! I was on my sofa and these 4 pugs were all over me, jumping around and I was just laughing and so happy to have them all over me. I realized that this was exactly what I should be doing! If I can be up at 5:00am and be laughing and happy then these dogs are what make my life complete!
Stewart Emery, in his book Success Built to Last, emphasizes having a “disciplined practice” to keep on track; ways to measure how you are accomplishing what you’ve set out to do. Do you have a disciplined practice or two or more; and what is it?
First of all we have a complete interview process of the dog. We have the dog come to our home and we see how he behaves. We use our dog Heidi, a Shepard/Lab mix, to test the guest dog’s ability to co-mingle with others. They have to be neutered and house trained both in “potty” matters and behavior. It comes down to trusting my gut about the dog and sometimes I have to turn away a potential guest/client.
We also have a complete set of paperwork to follow for ourselves and the owners: application, contract and disclosure, veterinarian release form, feeding habits, meds. It is our “Bible” of procedures. For our ongoing success we offer a referral plan to our guests that will give them some free boarding days in exchange for guest referrals.
Who are your female heroes?
The first one to come to mind is Lassie! For her beauty, intelligence and contribution to people. Another would be Mother Teresa. I think about women who have made a difference in my life. My Junior High School Science teacher, Mrs. Boucher; for her passion and how she related to the kids. And a good friend of mine, who I consider the best mom ever!
What’s so great about being 50+ years of age?
Knowing yourself and knowing that your healthy at this time of your life. You don’t have to define yourself by anyone else’s measuring stick.
What does success mean to you?
I am at the point in my life where I don’t have to acquire any more “stuff”. It’s all about helping each other.
Last Sunday, Jan. 26, on CBS, 60 Minutes, they featured a research team and story about Resveratrol. They called it the Fountain of Youth pill and talked about how it turns on the survival gene that extends life by decades and prevents lots of those dreaded age-related illnesses that ruin your life and finances. The researchers saw the possibility of 90 year-olds looking, feeling, and being able to do things like 60 year-olds.
And what is Resveratrol? It is a natural substance in the skin of grapes that protects them from the invasion of bacteria and it turns out it is good for us too. The universe, it seems, has many of these mutual benefit arrangements between plants and us. How considerate!The researchers then announced that it would take about 5 years to turn this into a drug at the cost of about three-quarters of a billion dollars. That’s B for Billion. Think big cost for those pills. The 60 Minutes reporter failed to ask the next most obvious question: If it is already in nature and we know how powerful it is in promoting health, why do we need to make it a drug?
On top of that, to make it a drug you have to turn it into a chemical toxic substance. It won’t be able to go from Phase 1 to Phase 2 of the new drug approval protocol without first demonstrating how much will kill half of their laboratory animals. It is call LD 50 or Lethal Dose 50.
Should we just drink more red wine instead? I don’t know how well Resveratrol survives the processing and aging of red wine. Does it remain biologically active and do we know how much you get in a glass of red wine? Does it vary with the winery? I love my glass of red wine with dinner. Yet, how much would I have to drink to get enough Resveratrol to make a difference?
For me, I’ve been getting Resveratrol for about a year now in my supplement, in capsule form. With this new data I will continue for sure. With this kind of good news, why wait? Good science is so important. If you are with me, don’t get just any Resveratrol. Make sure the science is there and it is natural and still alive.
O happy day. In my humble home, on my cushy sofa, in pajama pants, I indulged myself in front of our plain ol' 27" TV. What else could have been more important for me to do right now, this special morning? I watched the Inauguration of our 44th President, Barack Hussein Obama.
Gratitude. I felt the surge of emotion and joyous gratitude, resonating from the thousands of people packed shoulder to shoulder in the 27 degree D.C. morning. I am so grateful to be able to watch, to share this moment, just as millions more watch on TVs around our nation. And I am grateful for this time in our country, when one man, with the nation's hope and faith will take the helm and steer our nation, government and people; making the difficult turn to set us on a better course. Hope and Faith that we will unite, forgive, trust and work together. It's a prayer, sent out into the vast and mysterious atmosphere of our lives. I declare it a happy day!
I’m 55 years old and I've been noticing that most of my peers, friends and associates are now between the ages of 50 and 70 years old. I'm declaring that we are in our prime! What if 50 to 70 years old is the “Prime Time” of our life?
Just knowing more about ourselves: been all over there and done all that! Maybe retirement and the freedom to realize dreams of travel. Or choosing to work on projects and occupations that we actually want to do. Folks with grand kids to enjoy...gleefully handing them back to the parents to do the real job of child rearing.
Because I feel that this is my Prime Time, I am more aware of the importance of my health, especially prevention and sustainability. I realize that I don't actually have a "choice", whether to take care of myself or not. You see, at this age my body is only going to keep going with how I've managed it so far. I know that from now on, things will get "worse"...in terms of slower, saggy-er, etc. But that doesn't stop me from getting more information about how to sustain what I've got and committing to what will sustain my energy, flexibility and healthy cell structure. I've been learning about "cell structure", and really getting the picture of how my body is connected by all these buoyant little cells, communicating and interacting, making up this big mass of fun called Me.
Maybe the Saturday Night Live crew was “not quite ready for Prime Time” on television; but I’m so grateful to be a Prime Time Player in 2009!
